Tuesday, May 15, 2007

Happy Birthday, IJ

Today is my nephew's first birthday. It's difficult to put into words how a kid, that's not even your own, can change your life and teach you so many things, just by being born. I'm amazed at how fast this year has gone and even knowing that is just what happens, I am a little sad that time moves so ridiculously fast.

I know he'll be five... fifteen... twenty in a blink. And while I don't have the right words, I also can't help but think of all the things I hope he will know some day.

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To a kid that's taught me more about myself and my family in a year than I could have ever imagined.
For times when you think no one, especially your parents, knows anything and you can figure it all out on your own.


Have faith. You are who you're meant to be.

Your mother is smart. Listen to her. Except when she's singing, no one should have to listen to that.

Your dad is smart. Listen to him. Try to pay attention to what he doesn't say, too.

Most good things have the potential to be bad things. Even sunshine and ice cream.

People are always going to call you cute. It runs in your family, sorry.

Don't underestimate the value of good music.

You can be responsible without being afraid.

Hugging is not for sissies, it is for everyone. The same cannot be said for kissing.

You can change your attitude at any time. This will often be the only thing you have the power to change.

Food is good. So are drinks. However, refer to line #4 above.

Your family is not normal. No one else's is, either. The only difference is, we'll embarrass you without even trying.

And we give a lot of nicknames to things and people. This is normal, no matter what others might say.

Have fun. You can work hard and play hard. Sometimes all at once.

People talk a lot. Sometimes, they even have something to say. This is a nice way of saying you should listen to your aunt.

There's always something to learn. Always.

When you find good things, find a way to keep them in your life. This applies to people and memories, especially.

There is something to be said for knowing how to manage your money.

There is nothing wrong with dreaming.

There is also nothing wrong with cheesecake.

Know when to shut up.

I love you.

14 comments:

justacoolcat said...

He's one and already reading your blog? Now that is one smart cookie.

Anonymous said...

Yep, that's why I wrote it. So he could read it today.

Anonymous said...

"You can change your attitude at any time."- That's such a powerful statement. Love it!

Bre said...

Dear lord how time flies! I remember you posting about him being born! How can he be one already!?

Also "People are going to call you cute. It runs in your family" made me giggle! Happy Birthday little guy!

egan said...

What a sweet birthday influenced post from the doting auntie. I love how you're not afraid to mention your family's cuteness factor. I really like the hugs/kissing one too. I wish more people got that, especially guys.

You almost got me to cry with this post. So great to see how much this little guy influences you. As an expectant parent, it's so awesome.

Anonymous said...

"Don't underestimate the value of good music."

Amen sister!

Sizzle said...

aw, how sweet!

"know when to shut up" - i need to learn that one. ;)

Backofpack said...

Good life lessons for all of us! That little guy has one smart auntie.

Anonymous said...

You sure are one sage girl! I liked them all but you are right, sometimes the only fix you need is one large hug.

Anonymous said...

Good advice, all. What a lucky nephew you have!

The Exception said...

I love this.

Sounds like one special kid.

Barbara Bruederlin said...

I wish someone had given me a list life that when I was young. To make up for it, I will take your advice for myself. Never too old to learn.

runliarun said...

Oh, what a mother you are going to be...

Danielle said...

Very good and inspirational thoughts. I hope you print it for him and put it in his babybook!