Tuesday, October 31, 2006

Like writing a resume, but harder

Last weekend, my mother ran into some old classmates from high school. Never having been the Keep Up With The Joneses type, she tends to brag endlessly about her children without regard for the perceptions or beliefs of others; even to those with doctor sons and magazine editor daughters. She's very happy your son saves the vision of orphans in third world countries, but did you know her daughter "gets paid ridiculously for sitting in front of a computer?!" It's true what they say, about mothers seeing only good.

I thought about this the day I finally decided to try the online thing. It sort of feels like a competition. A competition with people you'll never meet. I'm no good at this. Sure, there's a brain surgeon that models Hooters t-shirts on the side but did you know I can run slowly and read code? Honestly, who could resist me?

But a competition, it is not. I know I gave the impression that a day of stir-crazy boredom and cruel temperatures drove me to the "scary" world of online personal ads, but that's not the entire picture. Some of you know I've been thinking about this for a while, because I asked for your opinions (thanks, by the way- to those I know in real life and to those only by blog). So instead of making assumptions and listing reasons why it wasn't right, I could do something new and sign up. Now, I may be right, I may be wrong, but at least I'll have tried.

Also, it makes sense to have crossed the bridge before you go doubting the potential of what's on the other side.

I believe Mean Emailer (I'm getting one on nearly every post these days) said it best: Good. Get dating and find someone. I'm sick of reading about all the reasons this guy or that guy just isn't right. Just don't completely lose touch with reality. I cant stand one more psycho dating blog.

Precisely, Mean Emailer. Me too. But I'm a little more optimistic than that. I don't just want to stop writing about the wrong people, because Heaven knows I have met them, I have this silly idea in my head that one day I'll be able to write about something that's right. And don't worry, I won't go losing touch with reality. I know what's right for me, as I always have. If I forget, I'll just ask my mother.


Anonymous said...

I think you have the right attitude and right frame of mind. Those are two key attributes that are just as necessary. Keep writing about, keep talking about, keep thinking about. Just keep at it. All of it is good!

Sizzle said...

mean emailer is mean. and should shut up. the bad stories remind me of the potential good. don't stop talking about it. :)

justacoolcat said...

Just remember online dating is silly and you'll be alright.

People may forget the things they have been taught since being a child when online, but there are decent people as well.

It's just a big silly process to find them, but isn't all dating?

Anonymous said...

Reading HTML, Pearl, MySQL, PHP, and/or JavaScript are very appealing traits. Get on with your bad self.

justrun said...

EB- Generally, it is all good.

Sizzle- I probably couldn't if I tried. :)

JACC- Definitely. All silly, all the time. Or maybe that's just me.

Josh- Ha! Thanks for the laugh. So true :)

deepThoughts said...

Dear Mean Emailer,

If you take the time to read JR's blog, I bet you are reading the comments too. And by now you can probably see that there is a good number of us who like to read everything that she writes. And if you don't, please don't read - simple.


skinnylittleblonde said...

Wow...my perceptionmust be way off because I never perceived your writings as a psycho dating blog! If mean blogger doesn't like it, s/he will quit coming around. The internet is self-serve!

S/he is just a rock in your path ... not for you to trip on, but for you to use as a stepping stone! :)

BTW, I don't use my degree & my family superiors (parents & in-laws) seem to be quite taken aback by it. The seem to try to fluff my job. LOL. Fact is, I make very little but enjoy life. My sanity & sanctity is worth more than any paycheck.

singleton said...

JR Keep runnin', Keep ramblin', It's all good!

Anonymous said...

It is way harder than writing a resume. I sorta tried once....I think it was a disaster. Oh well....lots of people do very well. I would say just be honest.

Danielle said...

Ah, but mean e-mailer doesn't have to read your blog...mean e-mailer makes a choice!! I say good luck to you. Been there done that on the online thing and no great experiences, but that doesn't mean it can't happen!