Friday, April 07, 2006

It's nice just to be asked*

Every Friday I "allow" myself to stop at Starbucks in the morning. It's a little treat I have at the end of every week. The truth is, if I could justify $25 a week on it, I'd stop every day.

Anyway, the friendly barristas have come to know my routine. I'm often their first customer of the day on Fridays due to my early working hours and it impresses me that every single Friday, they're in a good mood.

"Goooood morning!" They announce, in unison, as if the fact that me walking through the door is reason enough for celebration.

And for the last year and a half that I've kept this routine, a half-asleep "Hi!" is about all I've been able to muster. This morning was no different. So when the friendlier of the two barristas started chatting with me, I thought nothing of it.

"What are you up to for the weekend?"

"Not much. Running, cleaning, eating. You know, the usual. And you?"

"Oh probably just work and a few other things. We have some new coffees, do you want to try some samples?"

"Sure," I agree, because if it's free, it's for me.

"Okay, great!"

The barrista then proceeded to make me samples of six different teas and coffees. Some with milk, some with soy, some with syrup, some without and on and on. I sampled for a good fifteen minutes. All the while the other barrista looking over with raised eyebrows and a smirk on her face. I wondered if this was some conspiracy to send me to work bouncing off the walls, consequently getting me fired and not be able to afford Starbucks any more and therefore, they wouldn't have to deal with me at 5:30 a.m. ever again.

I was wrong.

As I sampled the final drink (Modo Green Tea or something odd like that) I told them thanks and proceeded to leave. As I turned to go, I heard the sample-crazy barrista say "Um...." and trail off.

"Did you say something?"

"Ummm, well, I was wondering..."

Oh geez, what's happening here, I thought. "Is everything okay?"

"Yeah, well, I just wanted to ask you, ummm.... do you ever go to poetry readings?"

"Oh, no, not really. I've only been to a few."

"Oh, okay. Well, if you ever want to, let me know. Have a good day!" Just as cheerful as ever.

And I looked at the other barrista, smirk still on her face, and said "Okay, ladies, see you later!" And then I just left. It took me until I got to my car to realize that I was pretty sure I'd just almost been asked out, by the Starbucks barrista, who is a woman.


I've never been asked out- albeit half-way- by another woman before. Since I'm not a lesbian, perhaps this is not startling information. Nevertheless, I'm a little intrigued. I'm flattered, too. I mean, women in general can be so much more critical than men so if a woman is attracted to me, far be it from me to argue. The thing is, I'm also wondering if I gave out some sort of "vibe" that suggested I may be attracted to her? I would wonder about this with anyone I wasn't attracted to though, so I suppose I should not approach it any differently. I don't want my Starbucks routine to be weird. I really couldn't handle that. It's my normal staple at the end of chaotic weeks, it cannot change. So, I'll just continue with my routine, be friendly and not take any more samples? Will she be offended? Should I worry? Is this a good thing or a bad thing? Was she even asking me out in the first place? I mean, I've never mentioned poetry before, so she wouldn't think I'd be interested, would she?

Do I even need to be asking these questions? Maybe it was some school project for her Sociology 101 course and I was a test subject. Yeah, that could be it.

*Also could be Good Thing or Bad Thing: Part 2


justacoolcat said...

She was asking you out. I think your plan to go about your routine as normal is the way to go. I don't think things will be weird.

As for "why" it happened.
As the saying goes, "when you've got it, you've got it".

Celina said...

Wow! I agree with your statement about being flattered b/c women are more critcal. I had a similar situation with a waitress once, and, although I'm VERY Heterosexual, I felt "flattered." Of course, if she had been sporting a mullett or a face-full of piercings, maybe I wouldn't have felt the same :)

Runner Girl FL said...

I suppose it would be flattering. I thought they had some sort of radar for that and could just tell. I never seem to know but them I'm not one of them either. Hmmmmm.....

Maybe she just needs a friend? :)

deepThoughts said...

I would surely take it as a compliment! So far a good thing...if you stop going to that Starbucks, that would be a bad thing.

Bre said...

hey man, being asked out is being asked out - no matter who it's by - it counts! :)

Sizzle said...

take it from a woman who a) has a lot of lesbian friends and b) has been asked out by numerous said lesbians (i do live in the lesbian capital of america, for reals)- it's a high compliment and no, they don't have radar. mroe than likely, she was testing the waters. if you can take the flattery and run with it, cool. just keep up your friday routine as per usual. :)

justrun said...

coolcat- Well, if I must.

celina- I'm fairly confident that I will never date anyone with a mullet, regardless of anything else. :)

runner girl- I don't think there's radar. If there were, we all should have it.

deepthoughts- I agree. I need all the compliments I can get on Fridays at 5:30 a.m.

bre- Indeed.

sizzle- Yeah, I will stick to the routine. If anything, I can identify with her. The dating world is tough.

Thanks, everyone, for weighing in. :-)

GirlGoyle said...

Ummm...don't allow anything to deter you from you Friday morning coffee on a friday? Who you kidding?! Actually I thought it was a real nice way of asking you out. I am def. heterosexual but heck this might turn into a friendship - why not. And flattering yes...I must say it is. I doubt she would be offended if you turned her down. I'm sure they are used to it - for a lack of a better word.

G-Man said...

Interesting, I think, on how there tends to be a double standard on same sex come on's. I mean if you had been posting as a male and telling this story (male server asks you ...), the responses by your readers would likely take a different slant; homophobia, more likely, would raise its ugly head.
Generally, the females with whom I have connected over the years are less prejudicial of others: racially, sexually, politically, culturally...
Perhaps things will change as films like Brokeback Mountain get males (hetero or not) talking about issues they have traditionally kept in the closet.

Sister Buckle said...

Whoa! Lesbian coffee shenanigans!

I say it's all ok as long as you keep getting free stuff :D